A patient is lying on the operating theater table. He is nervous, shivering, anxious and frightened. The moment the doctor comes in the room, the patient holds his hand and says, “Doctor, please take care of me, this is the first time I am going through an operation.”
The Doctor, very calmly says, “You are not alone, this is my first time too.”
My name is Akhilesh Parashar, and launching this first website which brings the best programs and mentors from different areas.
Let me introduce myself little more here.
First steps, first time, and icebreakers have always been a challenge for me as I was always afraid of taking the first plunge at something. Even my marriage proposal years ago to my girlfriend who is my wife now might not have happened, as I was afraid to ask the question. I’m not exactly sure what happened, but I eventually managed to do it, and we have been married going on twenty years now. If you are smart and can read between the lines, you would have guessed my struggle has been going on for at least 20 years. Anyone in a relationship can relate to this struggle; there have been situations where I had a few words with my wife and then she would have few paragraphs with me, but don’t mind me, I’m just joking, my wife is a beautiful woman.
So, I was always afraid of taking the first step, and this was simply because of the fear of failure. I would have thought to try out something, but along with that thought, would come the fear of venturing into the unknown. This would eventually lead to a battle between my thoughts and fears. In my case, fear always won.
Most of my life was spent on autopilot. I had a job, got married, had kids and was going through the usual day to day monotonous routine, with no purpose and no specific direction. It was kind of like driving on the road without a GPS and not knowing where to go. Living in fear is worse than anything else as it keeps you from enjoying anything, blocks your creativity and dampens your ability to take action.
Taking the first step was always hard for me because I was avoiding problems, but problems are meant to be solved, not avoided. Somehow I knew I wanted more, but when the thought came up, the fear of venturing into the unknown would resurface, and then the thought would make a hasty retreat.
For a long time I never consulted anyone and chose to solve my problems on my own, but I always felt alone in my struggle. This went on until I came to realize that I was actually not alone, and it was my closed up mind making me feel this way. I came to see that I was just not taking the first step to finding out the solution to my problem. When I made this realization, I began to notice that there were people around me; my family, friends, teachers, mentors, and leaders who I could approach to seek help and direction. There was help all around me after all. This began an awakening in my mind and in 2015, I decided it was time to take the plunge.
I consciously decided to stop living a life without purpose and direction. I wasn’t sure where I was going, but I knew I was going to get there if I made an effort. I watched thousands of videos of successful people, went through their interviews, and devoured many empowering books. This was when I began to work on myself and my mindset. I set up CLASS goals for myself. Who wouldn’t want to lead their life in style and class, right? My CLASS goals are Communication, Leadership, Awareness & Acceptance, Social Networking & Sustainability.
If there is one thing people living their best lives will tell you, it is that mindset is everything. If you aim to achieve more, live a more healthy lifestyle, or to be successful in any endeavor of your choosing, It will not be your talent or connections that will help you achieve it. It will be establishing the right mindset.
The right mindset is the kind that refuses to back down in the face of adversity while the wrong one gives up when conditions turn out to be unfavorable. It is wracked with fear and uncertainty. It is sad to say, but a majority of us are living with the wrong mindset.
The mind is such a powerful tool that it processes many of our thoughts before we even realize we made them and makes decisions based on how it has been programmed. It is programmed from our personal experiences, experiences from others and everything we pick up as we get older. These experiences set the parameters by which the mind works and will make decisions based on what it feels we will be comfortable with.
Fear and uncertainty which I always felt, were as a result of the mind trying to protect me. This is the same thing that happens to many of us. Something unfamiliar is interpreted as being risky and dangerous, and your mind will protect you from it.
Relying on this unconscious programming means the mind just manages to carry us through life, making the decisions that protect and keep us safe. The problem about being safe is that one only gets safe results. You might want more, but instead, you go with the safe and easy life on autopilot. The wrong mindset will eagerly give into fear and back away, while the right one will consciously take the plunge into uncertainty. If setback and failure occur along the way, the right mindset consciously learns from the experience, growing and reprogramming itself to do better until it gets you what it has been programmed it to achieve; which could be success, abundance and living one’s best life.
Every year there are close to fifty thousand suicide attempts in the USA alone, and I am on a mission to spread a message that it does not matter where you are right now, it is never too late to reach where you want to reach and in this journey, you are not alone.
I aim to let everyone learn about winning mindset, and I am one of the best person to share this as I have personal experience spanning over twenty years struggling with the wrong mindset. There was a time when we had to sell our house, entire gold jewelry that my wife had. I still remember where we had thoughts of withdrawing our son from an international school, which may have impacted his studies and environment. But now, we have gained everything back. In this book, I do not write theoretical explanations, but from personal experiences and what I have learned since I took the step to take control of my mindset consciously. I share my experience and learning so that we all can learn from each other’s mistakes and cut down the learning curve.
Through this website, my aim is to bring forward the best mentors and introduce best programs that can change your life. Finding a mentor is very important as they understand the capabilities inside you and bring out the best within you.
Wish you all the best and I will be posting blogs in different categories. Keep reading and keep learning. And do not forget to spread the message along.